“You’re at work not on Tinder. ‘Flirting’ shouldn’t even be an issue if you’re a professional and respect your colleagues.”

Idiot: you seriously think every workplace flirtation is harassment,but that it is OK to hook up on Tinder? “This is how the World ends, not with a bang but a whimper.” The legal definition of Sexual Harassment is repeated flirting after being told it is unwelcome. The initiator must be told his attentions are unwelcome, in order for the next occasion to be defined as harassment. That’s not victim blaming: it is good advice to enable victims not to be victims, thanks for totally misunderstanding everything I said.

“How tiring this must be to be on the defensive of douchebags all day?” Thanks for your sympathy, but I have broad shoulders: I can stand being Trolled by the likes of you all day. It’s harassment, but I can take it.

Re-read my post: I am trying to assist female victims of harassment to establish a legal platform for a sexual harassment case. If they follow my advice one of two things will happen: the flirting behaviour will stop once a decent guy knows it is unwelcome: they might even go on to become friends; or the not-decent guy will continue his approaches, the warnings will be repeated in front of witnesses, and a harassment discharge from that workplace is only a matter of time. Sexual Harassment is not OK, flirting in the workplace when welcomed, is OK. Otherwise, given that we spend over half our waking life at work, where are you going to meet the one significant other? On Tinder? I don’t think so: that is a site dedicated to the sexual harassment of the lonely.

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